I cannot speak on behalf of everyone, but from my own experience, this offers some food for thought.
Christmas is the time of year you either love or you hate for some reason or another and we can so often get wrapped up in the stress of buying people presents, making sure the turkey is big enough for Christmas day or what outfit to choose as you head for a Christmas catch up.
But, I beg you, be mindful. I was always a Christmas lover myself and felt as though it was the best time of year because for us, it was always about family. We did the whole ‘nice gifts’ thing but it was never top priority.
If you nailed it well done, if not, throw a hug and a smile and get on with it. Presents are not what is important.
This time of year more than any can be a struggle for those who have suffered loss in particular. It’s a time of year full of family gatherings or something as simple as having a sibling home from abroad for a week.
It’s those special moments we don’t treasure as much as we should – something others may give anything to have.
Be kind. A smile might go a long way this Christmas. It can be the happiest time or the loneliest time. Those we may have had last Christmas may not be sitting across from us at the table this year.
The losses we suffer can be highlighted at Christmas. Think of those who might have an empty seat at the table this year or who will spend it with a loved one in a hospital room.
As you get older you begin to see more and understand more about life and become more aware of what is going on around you. I’m not saying to dampen your Christmas spirit in any way but when someone says “I’m dreading Christmas” do not belittle it.
Lend a listening ear or a helping hand or simply just stand by their side in silence. Be the comfort they may seek.
Christmas changes for people over the years. What was once magical is now the biggest dread for some. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors or in someone’s mind. We might like to think we know it all but in reality, we know little of what anyone is dealing with.
Christmas can also be a huge stress and financial strain. When the true meaning of Christmas is lost, the material side takes over and people might find it a little more difficult than last year. Look out for people, be there, be understanding of people’s’ circumstances because every household is different.
I use the term ‘household’ but the obvious is on my mind. So many will not have a roof over their head this Christmas. Lend a hand or a hot cup of coffee and a chat. Help if you’re in a position to do so.
I’m not aiming to put a dark cloud over anyone’s Christmas but it doesn’t hurt to be mindful of those around you who may not be looking forward to Christmas. Bear in mind it isn’t easy for everyone.
Be kind. Be helpful. Most importantly, be there for those who may need it this Christmas.
Nollaig Shona.
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